Resilience is defined by the Merriam-Webster as “the ability to become strong, healthy, or successful again after something bad happens.” Guess what? Every one of us possess this power of resilience. The pace of rebounding from a setback may look different for us individually, but we can all rebound. There are some occurrences that will leave us feeling unsure of how to bounce back after an awful experience. Now, you will not view every bad experience the same. However, there will be actions or events that will have you wondering how exactly will you return to a space of wholeness again. Try using the following tidbits as a guide.
1. Get the Lesson: Whatever you are going through you are to glean a lesson from the experience. Perhaps you need to change your attitude or disconnect from a relationship.
2. Develop your Tenacity: This is your persistence and the fighter in you. Most of us know that we instinctively have a fight or flight response. There will be moments where you have no choice, but to fight. Use this fighter in you to build up your character.
3. Things Will Get Better: You have to know this for yourself. The optimistic view is that if you are already feeling at your lowest, things can only go up from here.
4. Reflection: After you dance with your varying emotions, set them aside, and look deeply into the matter. Are you able to see your role in the matter? Were any signs present that you ignored of shirked aside? This is also a key moment to not allow bitterness to build up.
5. Resolve: Resolve that you will bounce back better than you were before the event. This may not occur overnight and you may go through some other transitional phases, but you can and will be stronger once you get out of the trenches.
Remember, everything in its due time and season, but be encouraged to stay strong to the best of your capabilities until life is once again golden for you.