Golden Life Living with Charise

Create the Life You Want

1/23/2019

Happy New Year! I immensely miss blogging and writing. I found myself pulled in many directions as I added Certified Professional Coach to my tool box. I was not prepared for the plethora of advice and how-to in navigating my entrepreneurial journey. In fact, I found myself needing to disconnect from it all and take a much-needed break. My hiatus is the catalyst for me clearing my head space and gaining clarity on what I want and how I want to show up – not only in business, but in life. Hopefully, these steps resonate with you and you too can create the life you want.

A couple of things need to happen first before you can get to the actual part of creation. First, review EVERYTHIING that is currently guiding your trajectory – advice columns, expert opinions, education programs, all of it. You are human, not a computer that requires coding to function. Second, a purge of the things that do not feel natural and organic to you. You decide what you want to TOSS and what you want to KEEP. There is no magic timeline or formula for completing these tasks. Obviously, the sooner the better. Trust me, it’s not as tedious as it may read because you already know the answers. This time around, you are choosing to LISTEN rather than ignore.

What’s next after your clear the gunk? A blissful state of new found clarity and memory restoration about what it is you want. For me, I remembered why I started out on my course and averting my focus back to my goals before I permitted others to convince me otherwise. There is a plethora of people selling what they claim worked for them. Because something worked for them does not mean it is the way for you. Trust me, at the core, you have the answers within you.

Below are some tips to begin moving towards creating the life you want.

You are the expert. There are many “experts” out here except no one knows the rightful path better than you.
Simplicity. If it feels overwhelming or like a chore, it’s not the course of action for you.
Authentic. If it feels forced or not your way of doing things – ditch it.
Create Your Own Opportunity. Stop waiting for others to give you something. Get out there and create space for what you want and develop your own vision.
BONUS: Think outside the box. We hear this a lot, yet we continue to box ourselves in through a label or in thinking there is only one way to achieve our heart’s desire. Be willing to go on an exploration to discover the possibilities.

You really can create the life you want once you stop trying to assimilate and lean too much on the understanding of others. Make 2019 your year of discovering the possibilities for your life and creating the life you want.

Wishing you a golden week,

Charise

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Developing Your Strength

6/11/2018

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We all know that life happens. What we receive is not always fair. AND there are moments where we may ask, "What have I done to deserve this?" The answer may very well be nothing. We do not always receive a ration in life according to our deeds.

Fact:

Good and bad things happen to good people.
Good and bad things happen to people that do bad things and act bad.

There are instances where things occur and we are not sure or do not know how we can survive it. The answer is through finding your strength and resolve. Strength, like a muscle, is developed over time and requires implementing a few points.

Mindset – If you subscribe to a victim mentality, you will always find yourself in the role of a victim. You will not find strength in constantly identifying yourself as a victim.

Know Your Position – Is what is occurring truly about you or is it someone else’s stuff or issue? Everything that happens to us is not always about us.

It’s Not About You – We are human and by default we have the tendency to take things personally. Recognize that your role may be one of a supporting character or an extra. What you are going through may have more to do with another character and unfortunately, you somehow factor into the equation.

Everything Happens for a Reason – In the midst of enduring, one must have an awareness that something will be revealed down the line. It can include (1) a lesson that you need to learn, (2) a removal of yourself from a situation or relationship, or (3) guidance towards a path that you have avoided.

Life Does Not Stop – While you are going through your struggle, life continues. What are you going to do about it? Find an outlet that works for you such as running or kicking a punching bag. Rely on friends and family to talk things out and through. You may even consider speaking with a professional.

Our strength is developed over time from our setbacks in life. Without challenges we would not be able to grow in our resolve. To that end, here are some steps to note.

1. Acknowledge what you are feeling in your moments of crisis.
2. Step back and look to see your place in the matter.
3. Discover if it is or is not about you.
4. Develop and follow a course of action.

WARNING: You will have situations that ARE NOT about you, but someone else. You may want to help. You can, but fair warning, you cannot help those who either do not want it or are not ready.

“The most beautiful people I’ve known are those who have known trials, have known struggles, have known loss, and have found their way out of the depths.”~ Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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Growth Is a Continuous Journey

2/26/2018

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There is nothing wrong with being content in your life; however, one should never become complacent. Being complacent can stunt your growth, thus leading you to a position of stagnation. Make it your personal mission to actively work towards an achievement or goal. As with most things, it is for you to decide which area of your life this action will take place. Some people are career driven. These individuals are always looking for the next rung as they move their way up the corporate ladder. Others find satisfaction in personal matters. They may challenge themselves to run a 5K, make a declaration to actively support a cause, or pursue a dream that has been deferred. Some people may elect to focus upon intrinsic traits. To work on intrinsic traits requires self-reflection, which equates to taking an honest look inward. We can all work on building our character or ironing out some characteristic flaws. Do you find yourself angry all of the time? Do you tend to have a negative outlook? Are you constantly judging others? These set of individuals look internally for areas of self-improvement. There are varying aspects of one’s life that can become a focus for continuing growth.

Everyone should strive to learn something new or look for ways of improving on an on-going basis. The great thing about learning is that it can be disguised in varying forms. Please do not think of the cookie-cutter form of education. You are absolutely free to think outside of the box. The great thing is that you can find things that truly fit your learning style. Are you an auditory, linguistic, kinesthetic, or spatial learner? Your learning style will dictate how you are stimulated. This will aide you in determining if your preference is to read, hear lectures, or perform hands-on activities. Again, this can be career driven or simply for personal satisfaction.

Periodically, conduct a self-review to chart your progress and update your goals. You should do this at minimum, once per year. It would be great, if you can perform this review once a quarter. The purpose of this review is to see where you are with your goals. Are you on target? Are some goals taking longer than anticipated? Is it time to add new goals?

Tips:

Being comfortable is not a destination. Map out your plan of life.
Be sure to avoid stagnation in your life. You are allowed to have downtime, but do not get stuck in a rut.
Growth and stimulation does not have to be directly tied to your job or career. Make it personal and something that drives you. Being the Chief Executive Officer of your own life is the perfect pursuit.
Always have a goal in mind. Once you accomplish or complete a goal, it is time to think and plan for what is next. Remember, to conduct periodic self-reviews to track your goals.
Think outside of the box. Check your local community college for continuing education courses. Major universities are now offering online courses at no cost (see Resources below). You will not receive college credits; however, no one can ever dismiss acquired knowledge. Learn and try something new and different - art class, baking/cooking class, karate or self-defense, writing class, etc.

“I think it's dangerous to think that you're successful, because then you become complacent.” ~ Tommy Hilfiger

Resources:
Coursea Course Catalog - https://www.coursera.org/
MIT Open Courseware - http://ocw.mit.edu/courses/
Open Learning Initiative - http://oli.cmu.edu/
Udacity - http://www.udacity.com/

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