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Make Small Commitments. Get Big Changes.

5/22/2019

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Make Small Commitments. Get Big Changes.
by Michael Dalton Johnson

Taking Care of You
Drink plenty of water.
Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a pauper.
Eat more fruits and vegetables and eat less that is manufactured in processing plants.
Avoid eating food that is handed to you through a window.
Live the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy.
Play more games.
Read more books than you did last year.
Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
Sleep for 7 hours.
Take a 10-30 minute walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Your Outlook
Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
Don't overdo. Keep your limits.
Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
Dream more while you are awake.
Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
Forget issues of the past. Don't remind others of their past mistakes.
Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
Learn a new word every day.
Smile and laugh more.
You don't have to win every argument.

Your Relationships
Call your family often.
Each day give something good to others.
Forgive everyone for everything.
Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
Try to make at least three people smile each day.
What other people think of you is none of your business.
Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Your Life
The worst promise you can break is one made to yourself.
Do the right thing!
Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
You don't have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body.
However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
The best is yet to come.
When you awake alive in the morning, thank God for it.
Your Innermost Self is always happy. Follow it.
No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

Keep these rules handy and review them often. Follow them and small, almost imperceptible, changes will accumulate into something big. Your life will change.

Source: http://www.salesdog.com/newsletter/2011/nl0529.htm

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The Optimistic Mindset

5/15/2019

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Optimism is a mindset. Optimists do not have everything and things do not always go as they may wish. Being optimistic does not mean negating or ignoring other human emotions such as anger, disappointment, fear, sadness, and so on. An optimistic mindset is about accepting the curve balls that life throws us, getting the lesson, and knowing that when the season passes that there is a purpose for their survival.

Tips for shifting your mindset to an optimistic point of view

Expect good things. A lot of people always look for the worst. There is power in our mindset and the results of what we attract. Let’s be realistic, stuff happens from time to time.
Activate gratitude. Take time out daily to reflect and be grateful for what you do have. This will alleviate you focusing on the wrong things.
Limit negativity. Minimize the time you spend around negative nellies. Be mindful of the stories you read in the media and on social media. Take time out to disconnect.

Optimism does not negate realism and is not about subscribing to a Pollyanna view of life. While life is not all roses all the time, we have to trust that when we survive the detours there is a greater purpose. You cannot get to this purpose when you are wallowing in regret or with a ‘woe is me’ attitude.

“Cultivate optimism by committing yourself to a cause, a plan or a value
system. You'll feel that you are growing in a meaningful direction which
will help you rise above day-to-day setbacks.” ~ Robert Conroy

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Creating Your Ultimate Love Story

5/9/2019

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Self-love is defined as “regard for one's own well-being and happiness.” Unfortunately when we hear the word love most rarely think of self. We probably place too much emphasis on being selfless and externalities. Let’s be honest, we are programmed to seek and nurture love outside of ourselves with romantic comedies subliminally convincing us we need someone to complete us.

The truth is true love begins with the love songs and stories that we create within ourselves. In my observations, the most bitter, cruel, and ugly acting people are those who lack a love of self. Unfortunately, their acts and behaviors are at the consequences of others - an attempt to transfer their ills to another. This was my first hand experience in an abusive marriage. My epiphany came with the realization that this individual could not love me because he did not even love himself. There also came a period of reflection on how I was not loving myself in subjecting myself to treatment that was not a reflection of love.

Instead of focusing on the external ways in which we may or may not receive love let us instead turn our attention to loving ourselves, first and foremost. Self-love. Let us stop looking for extrinsic love and learn to master intrinsic love. When one practices self-love it opens up a space to be open and receptive to external love. Even greater, you attract the right kind of people into your life because in essence your aura changes. You function from a space of clarity in what you want in your life.

Three Tips to Activate Self-Love
1. Show yourself unconditional love. Unconditional love is recognizing that we all fall short but not berating ourselves in this area. Dote on your positive attributes and strengths. These are the areas we should focus on and build up.
2. Treat yourself. Stop putting off the things you want to do and see in the hopes of finding someone to do these things with you. Date yourself and plan sporadic play dates for a party of one. (Hint: Check out meetup if you absolutely need to interact with others)
3. Find your happy. Use this time to discover what really makes YOU happy. Do more of these things.

It is time to focus on loving yourself first. Prepare yourself to be amazed at how you will attract what you nurture.

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