Golden Life Living with Charise

Creating Your Ultimate Love Story

5/9/2019

Self-love is defined as “regard for one's own well-being and happiness.” Unfortunately when we hear the word love most rarely think of self. We probably place too much emphasis on being selfless and externalities. Let’s be honest, we are programmed to seek and nurture love outside of ourselves with romantic comedies subliminally convincing us we need someone to complete us.

The truth is true love begins with the love songs and stories that we create within ourselves. In my observations, the most bitter, cruel, and ugly acting people are those who lack a love of self. Unfortunately, their acts and behaviors are at the consequences of others - an attempt to transfer their ills to another. This was my first hand experience in an abusive marriage. My epiphany came with the realization that this individual could not love me because he did not even love himself. There also came a period of reflection on how I was not loving myself in subjecting myself to treatment that was not a reflection of love.

Instead of focusing on the external ways in which we may or may not receive love let us instead turn our attention to loving ourselves, first and foremost. Self-love. Let us stop looking for extrinsic love and learn to master intrinsic love. When one practices self-love it opens up a space to be open and receptive to external love. Even greater, you attract the right kind of people into your life because in essence your aura changes. You function from a space of clarity in what you want in your life.

Three Tips to Activate Self-Love
1. Show yourself unconditional love. Unconditional love is recognizing that we all fall short but not berating ourselves in this area. Dote on your positive attributes and strengths. These are the areas we should focus on and build up.
2. Treat yourself. Stop putting off the things you want to do and see in the hopes of finding someone to do these things with you. Date yourself and plan sporadic play dates for a party of one. (Hint: Check out meetup if you absolutely need to interact with others)
3. Find your happy. Use this time to discover what really makes YOU happy. Do more of these things.

It is time to focus on loving yourself first. Prepare yourself to be amazed at how you will attract what you nurture.

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Living Unfearfully

1/30/2019

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Let’s jump right in. To begin, living unfearfully is not indicative of not heeding warnings. Fear is a beneficial and life sustaining mechanism. It is there to alert you of danger. To that end, there are those that allow fear to reign in their life, in affect allowing it to become a paralyzing condition. Truth be told, fear simply vibes off our own energy. While it is there to offer us protection, it is not savvy enough to discern between a real threat and nervousness.

What is it about fear that allows it to have such a stronghold in our lives.? Fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of the unknown. Fear of the known. There is not a rule that exists that indicates we only get one win in life. You can have as many wins as you want, if you are willing to put in the work. Learn to shift your focus from what can go wrong to what can go right. In fact, learn to dismiss the concept of this idea of wrong. Everything is an opportunity to learn and grow – a lesson for your overall improvement.

Below are some steps to take to begin moving towards living unfearfully.

Exploration. Be willing to try something different. A new way of doing things. Something that challenges you and the status quo on something.
Give fear a name. Yes, you read that correctly…give your fear a name. Personalize it because it is not going anywhere. Remember, it does serve a purpose. Make fear your friend, not your foe.
Check it. Tell your fear when it’s protection is not required. Make it go have a seat while you work to unlock areas of unexplored potential.

To embrace the concept fully, we must learn to live a life with unabashed courage, throwing caution to the wind, and live unfearfully to achieve our big vision picture for our lives. This may not come to your overnight but continue to work at it and see how things begin to take shape in your life.

Wishing you a golden week,

Charise

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Create the Life You Want

1/23/2019

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Happy New Year! I immensely miss blogging and writing. I found myself pulled in many directions as I added Certified Professional Coach to my tool box. I was not prepared for the plethora of advice and how-to in navigating my entrepreneurial journey. In fact, I found myself needing to disconnect from it all and take a much-needed break. My hiatus is the catalyst for me clearing my head space and gaining clarity on what I want and how I want to show up – not only in business, but in life. Hopefully, these steps resonate with you and you too can create the life you want.

A couple of things need to happen first before you can get to the actual part of creation. First, review EVERYTHIING that is currently guiding your trajectory – advice columns, expert opinions, education programs, all of it. You are human, not a computer that requires coding to function. Second, a purge of the things that do not feel natural and organic to you. You decide what you want to TOSS and what you want to KEEP. There is no magic timeline or formula for completing these tasks. Obviously, the sooner the better. Trust me, it’s not as tedious as it may read because you already know the answers. This time around, you are choosing to LISTEN rather than ignore.

What’s next after your clear the gunk? A blissful state of new found clarity and memory restoration about what it is you want. For me, I remembered why I started out on my course and averting my focus back to my goals before I permitted others to convince me otherwise. There is a plethora of people selling what they claim worked for them. Because something worked for them does not mean it is the way for you. Trust me, at the core, you have the answers within you.

Below are some tips to begin moving towards creating the life you want.

You are the expert. There are many “experts” out here except no one knows the rightful path better than you.
Simplicity. If it feels overwhelming or like a chore, it’s not the course of action for you.
Authentic. If it feels forced or not your way of doing things – ditch it.
Create Your Own Opportunity. Stop waiting for others to give you something. Get out there and create space for what you want and develop your own vision.
BONUS: Think outside the box. We hear this a lot, yet we continue to box ourselves in through a label or in thinking there is only one way to achieve our heart’s desire. Be willing to go on an exploration to discover the possibilities.

You really can create the life you want once you stop trying to assimilate and lean too much on the understanding of others. Make 2019 your year of discovering the possibilities for your life and creating the life you want.

Wishing you a golden week,

Charise

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